Thursday, November 18, 2010
Monday, November 01, 2010
Martyrdom
This concept has been used countless time...even in relationship. It's such an epic love story when 1 person sacrifice themselves to save their love one. Why they do that?..simple, because they want them to be happy. What they didnt know is, most of time...it only bring pain & suffering more to their loved one. If that happen, it no longer can be consider a Martyrdom , it was called Selfishness.
Selfish is a normal human behavior. Regardless of the situation, they will try to be selfish. It's a good thing if you notice your act of selfishness...but it be worst if they didnt even notice it at all. take this as an example:
Two lovely couples that has been in relationship then suddenly the girl found out from the guy diary at his working table. In one of the old entry, the guy used to love someone very deeply a couples of years ago. it's so deep that the guy cannot say the magic word to her at all until the end.
The diary entry is too damn epic that she felt that her guy better off with that girl as he deserved more. Than the girl ask the most unbelievable question to the unfortunate guy, "Im willing to let you go if that will make you happy with her".
Ok, let's us pause the damn story for awhile. the girl assume her guy will be happy with other girl's care. The girl want her guy to be happy even without her. At first glance, it really looks like a noble priestess ready to make sacrifice to save the whole damn world. Epic isnt it? but let us put some twist in the storyline:
What if the guy is actually more happier with her?
What if the guy no longer have any feeling toward the previous girl?
What if the guy no longer care the previous girl?
What if the previous girl is actually much worse in comparison?
Im pretty damn sure the guy only have 2 options:
1) to follow his girl advise which will in fact make him wandering endlessly into oblivion; or
2) to be a stonehead and stick with her until the end of time.
if he choose option (1), he is in fact(based on the assumption stated above) wont chase the prev girl..but instead he will do something els that the girl wont expect. i mean, who want to chase it's own past? there's no guarantee that girl will accept him or who know, maybe she's already married?. if this is the path that the guy take...congratulation girl, you just converted the meaning of Martyrdom to Selfish since you not only destroy your life & happiness but also the life & happiness of others too.
if he choose the (2) option, consider yourself a the luckiest girl on the planet. Plain & Simple, no?
and the story end there....i'll leave the fate of the couple to your own imagination. but 1 thing for sure, THIS IS NOT A FRIGGIN VIDEOGAME WHERE YOU CAN QUICKSAVE & QUICKLOAD IF YOU'RE SCREWED UP BY MAKING THE WRONG CHOICE.
of course, all this can be avoided if the girl just ask the guy about it in the first place. or else why do you think the guy leave his diary around especially on his work desk? surely the guy want the girl to read his sad & messy history so she can understand him more then anyone else....right?.
anyways, to end this post(since i need to get back to work)..the essence of good relationship is to Talk About It, not to Assume It
Selfish is a normal human behavior. Regardless of the situation, they will try to be selfish. It's a good thing if you notice your act of selfishness...but it be worst if they didnt even notice it at all. take this as an example:
Two lovely couples that has been in relationship then suddenly the girl found out from the guy diary at his working table. In one of the old entry, the guy used to love someone very deeply a couples of years ago. it's so deep that the guy cannot say the magic word to her at all until the end.
The diary entry is too damn epic that she felt that her guy better off with that girl as he deserved more. Than the girl ask the most unbelievable question to the unfortunate guy, "Im willing to let you go if that will make you happy with her".
Ok, let's us pause the damn story for awhile. the girl assume her guy will be happy with other girl's care. The girl want her guy to be happy even without her. At first glance, it really looks like a noble priestess ready to make sacrifice to save the whole damn world. Epic isnt it? but let us put some twist in the storyline:
What if the guy is actually more happier with her?
What if the guy no longer have any feeling toward the previous girl?
What if the guy no longer care the previous girl?
What if the previous girl is actually much worse in comparison?
Im pretty damn sure the guy only have 2 options:
1) to follow his girl advise which will in fact make him wandering endlessly into oblivion; or
2) to be a stonehead and stick with her until the end of time.
if he choose option (1), he is in fact(based on the assumption stated above) wont chase the prev girl..but instead he will do something els that the girl wont expect. i mean, who want to chase it's own past? there's no guarantee that girl will accept him or who know, maybe she's already married?. if this is the path that the guy take...congratulation girl, you just converted the meaning of Martyrdom to Selfish since you not only destroy your life & happiness but also the life & happiness of others too.
if he choose the (2) option, consider yourself a the luckiest girl on the planet. Plain & Simple, no?
and the story end there....i'll leave the fate of the couple to your own imagination. but 1 thing for sure, THIS IS NOT A FRIGGIN VIDEOGAME WHERE YOU CAN QUICKSAVE & QUICKLOAD IF YOU'RE SCREWED UP BY MAKING THE WRONG CHOICE.
of course, all this can be avoided if the girl just ask the guy about it in the first place. or else why do you think the guy leave his diary around especially on his work desk? surely the guy want the girl to read his sad & messy history so she can understand him more then anyone else....right?.
anyways, to end this post(since i need to get back to work)..the essence of good relationship is to Talk About It, not to Assume It
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